OMG
Tina Fey has hit the nail on the head.
This is exactly what I feel like when I write about my sister:

The "30 Rock" star has refused to discuss the scar. "It's impossible to talk about it without somehow seemingly exploiting it," she says.

It's weird to think that your other senses, the ones that can enjoy time, that want attention, that are concerned with stat hits, the ones that want undivided attention from your husband, that invite visiting friends for lunch of baked chicken and crispy okra salad with garlic toasted bread (see?) are not numbed by the C word that dominates pretty much everything else.