We are having to make tough adult decisions about issues in our life
and the more we are going through the decision making motions, the more impressed I am by the complexity of Boy (& bit perplexed - for, there are times when I find him so lacking in, what I perceive, are basic traits and then there are times when he does something, well, frankly noble, that I feel like the apemen in Kubrick's 2001, when they find the rectangular thing - ooog aaag, poke, beat - where does this come from? for really, how can one person have so many, sometimes contrasting layers)

He never complains.
Or whines.
about any situation.

And I find that hard to accept.
If I were denied anything, there is no stoicism in my gradual acceptance of the fact.
I cringe, whine, crib my way to it.

The Boy looks at situations and pragmatically analyzes the situation & when no avenue exists, accepts and moves on to different plans - there are no tearful wailing, no vengeful comparisons, no moody contrasts or covetousness.

You know how they say as couples evolve, they gradually start resembling each other - my biggest fear is that my corrosive personality will wipe over the boy's instead of his influencing mine.