Yesterday

in a fit of productivity, I:

• emailed queries to half a dozen officiants for the wedding,
• made appointment with site vendor to go over some details,
• went over some rental listings.

I am finding that this whole not having a job thing isn't as glamorous as I thought it would be. My friend A.D., who is also unemployed, says it hits in waves. At times, I am deliriously happy that I don't have to drag myself at 7 in the morning for work and that I get to sleep in while boy spritzes himself to work. And that I can still be in bed reading at 3 in the p.m if I want to.

But at other times, I yearn for the discipline that comes with having a job.
The excitement of a project,
or the intrigue of meeting with people.

To combat this boredom, which always leads to a sinking of spirits for me, I am doing a bit of 'list-making' (as evidenced by above & bullet pts)

• I am devoting the morning half of the day to walks & swims (oh frack. which may tan me even further - which means I need sunblock - add to 'need to buy' list)

• Afternoon will be spent answering emails/bloghopping/blogwriting. Also driving around new city to check it out. Or going down to beach to do some reading under boy's big, floppy umbrella
  

• Lunch in between with boy

(a thought - This whole cooking thing, which was all sweet & done in the spur of love, now begs the question - is he going to be an ass about it when I start working? It's one of those things that's boring & bothersome to talk about.
For the boy is super sensitive about things that he feels I should already know.
his stock answer is 'you know the person I am - what do you think I would do?"
Which is tricky, see?
Because I do but I don't.
I mean, if the issue was about say, would the boy ever physically beat his wife, the answer would be NO.
But this is one those 'how will he react when something he is used to gets taken away' and do I really care?
Are we the couple with the assigned roles or are we the 'lets see what happens' couple?
And really, do I really need to analyse all this to death or should I just let it be?)
Moving on,

• Spin classes / kickboxing/ aquatic classes in afternoon, depending on schedule

• Wedding work in evening

• Tea after 5 with boy in lovely open balconey

• Making dinner with boy
  

• Evening walk/drinks with friends/movie/bowling, depending on schedule.

Also, I have noticed a v. annoying trend. Nice though the boys' friends are, they seem to be a bit of the traditionalists, and this includes his non-desi friends too.
And as the boy and I try to recreate the boundaries of our 'physically together' relationship, I am finding the boy does two things.

• introduces concepts of (mostly traditionalist) friends to see if it'll fly with me

• introduce his own brand of insanely bizarre traditional views on some insanely bizarre non-traditional issues (issues which acc to him are normal, for me - not)

Some of it I don't mind indulging - like the whole cooking thing. I love cooking. I love the art of planing menus, learning recipes, creating food and the act of peeling, cutting and cooking makes me feel v.relaxed.
As long as I am not stuck with the washing up or the ironing. I loathe ironing. Loathe it.
But others seem a bit wonky to me, which the boy, after testing it out for a couple of days, and seeing it unaccepted, moves on to the next.

So that's what we are doing this week,
me - making lists & giving into my anal, organizational side
he - putting forth proposals to see which will fly & which won't.