At lunch with some boys

Lark: I almost did it. I was right there - outside the candy store. petrified. I couldn't go in. So I called my best friend who was like - dude, the reason you are this way is because you are terrified of divorce and you think it's a big deal.
Me: uhmm...
Lark: yeah, I want to propose. I need to propose. I absolutely know she's the one. but I am terrified. I wanted to give her a candy ring first but I couldn't move.
Me: Uhmm...
Lark: It's because I just don't want to fail. I want everything to be absolutely per-fect before we get married.
Me: How much more perfect can it be? You guys've been together for 7 years now, you live together.
Lark: I don't know - I just want us to be financially more stable. Just more sure.
Bob (the quiet one in corner): ok slowly mccautious. It is not that. It's because you think that when two people want to get married, both of them equally want it. Dude - you can want it 40 % and she can want it 60 % and its still OK! It doesn't mean you don't love her less or that this is not meant to be. It just means you have shit that you think you need to take care of. And the whole fear of failure. You love this woman but you think if you get married, there is a chance things will change and you guys end in divorce - then you are going to lose her forever - so why take the chance.
Shit.i NEED a beer after that.

Its like the neurons in my brain went into overactivity.
Electrical impulses sent this way and that.
Eyes widening out. understanding sinking in.
It makes sense.
Not just for Lark.
But the whole mess that was last year.
At least some of it did.